Children tend to have a lot of questions when their parents get divorced. One mistake Georgia parents sometimes make is telling their kids about the divorce before they have the answers. By waiting to have a conversation with the children until after both sides have consulted with attorneys, parents may be able to ease their children’s minds.
Divorce is rarely a surprise to kids who have witnessed the tension between their parents for quite some time. However, they are rarely prepared for the impact it will have on their lives. Children may wonder how they will spend the holidays, including their birthdays, after their parents live in separate homes. Parents who can put their own differences aside for the sake of the family could see their children adjust to the transition more easily. Family law judges will make these decisions if the parents don’t.
Children need to know that they are not responsible for the divorce and that they won’t be in the middle of their parents’ disagreements. By assuring them there is nothing they could have done to prevent the divorce, children may continue to love both of their parents. Exes should also resist using the kids as a sounding board for disputes between themselves. While it might not be feasible for all rules to be consistent in both parents’ homes, having some continuity might be comforting.
Getting divorced with children is often more problematic when parents don’t agree on living arrangements or parenting time. An attorney who has experience in family law and child custody issues could help parents come to an agreement on their own instead of having the court decide their children’s future.